I just passed the 17-month anniversary mark of meeting my biological dad for the first time and I've become a little reminiscent and introspective, wondering what it might look like now if only I'd known a few more things before I reached out to him. I can tell you with certainty that I had absolutely… Continue reading How to Prepare for Search and Reunion with Biological Family
Standing up for that little girl - finally fighting for her when everyone else retreated, giving her a voice when others demanded silence and gratitude, acknowledging her pain as valid and an absolutely reasonable response to abandonment - standing up for her means finally being true to myself from the inside out. This past year,… Continue reading Fighting through the New Year
The loss for the adoptee is unlike other losses we have come to expect in a lifetime such as death and divorce. Adoption is more pervasive, less socially recognized and more profound. -Brodzinsky and Marshall This time last year, I thought I was going crazy. Literally. I've never been more scared in my life! I… Continue reading Grief and the Adoptee
Dear Mom ~ I've learned a lot about myself over the last 51 years, but this past year alone I feel like I've earned a Ph.D in "me," learning more in one than all of the other 50 combined. I guess it's about time. About time that I stopped avoiding the reality that there's always… Continue reading Open Letter to My Adoptive Mother
It's a universal question asked by most who share this beautiful planet: "Who am I?" and usually asked simultaneously with "Why am I here?" We question who we really are and why we're here. We want our lives to have meaning. We want our minutes of oxygen use to count for something - to go… Continue reading Whose am I?
No matter what stage of the search for biological family you find yourself, finding someone who is where you are or a little ahead of where you are in the process is a game changer. This whole search/reunion thing is unlike any other event/relationship that "normal" folks experience. It's difficult to even compare it to… Continue reading Surviving Search and Reunion with Biological Family
I never thought I’d ever have the chance to say “HAPPY FATHER'S DAY” to my Dad. Until 8 months ago, he didn't even know I existed. Finally, 51 Father's Days later, I will get my chance.